One of the easiest ways to be viewed as a tremendous conversationalist is to listen and ask questions.
Listen with an open mind. Let questions arise from the conversation. Be curious.
Don’t listen with the aim to find how the other person’s situation fits into the narrative you want to talk about so you can turn the conversation back to you. Listen with an aim to find out about the other person. What drives them, what is important to them, what their hopes are and what their frustrations are. Listen without agenda. Listen to learn.
This is not to say you can never talk about yourself. But don’t you already know everything there is to know about you? Isn’t it more interesting to find out about someone else?
P.S. Did you know you can read my entire first YA sci-fi adventure book, free, online? And if you’re a parent or educator, or just someone who enjoys activities, check out the free, thought-provoking, skill-building activities at the end of every chapter! The Universes Inside the Lighthouse (and subsequent books in the series) was inspired by my love of books like A Wrinkle In Time or shows like Doctor Who. It’s my own exploration and answer to the deep and sometimes unanswerable questions: what else is out there? What if we could meet aliens from other planets? What if everything were possible? What’s more, through the power of truth-through-fiction, The Universes Inside the Lighthouse addresses issues of loneliness and compassion and gives parents and educators an opening to discuss these challenging but important issues. I love this series so much and I hope you will too! Start reading chapter one here! And feel free to spread the word!
Check out Pam’s books!
- The Universes Inside the Lighthouse—YA sci-fi adventure / first in the Balky Point Adventures
- The Wishing Rock series—women’s fiction / wit, wisdom, and recipes
- The Pam on the Map series—travelogues / wit and wanderlust