When we mess up, it’s easy to want others to be a little forgiving of us. To give us the benefit of the doubt. To understand that we’re only human and we’re doing the best we can.
But when someone else messes up at our expense, it’s easy to forget all that. It’s easy to assume that if they hurt us deeply, they meant to. If they said the wrong thing, it was intentional. If they were unkind, it was personal. If they were less than sensitive, it’s because they don’t value us enough to try harder.
Assuming that everyone is doing their best can be hard sometimes. It is easier to feel hurt and get angry than it is to give others the benefit of the doubt and trust and be vulnerable and risk being hurt again.
But if we want to be happy, that’s the only way forward. When you know better, do better. When they know better, they do better. Everyone is learning. We’re all simply doing the best we can, and we all mess up, over and over again. Let’s give each other the benefit of the doubt.
P.S. Did you know you can read my entire first YA sci-fi adventure book, free, online? And if you’re a parent or educator, or just someone who enjoys activities, check out the free, thought-provoking, skill-building activities at the end of every chapter! The Universes Inside the Lighthouse (and subsequent books in the series) was inspired by my love of books like A Wrinkle In Time or shows like Doctor Who. It’s my own exploration and answer to the deep and sometimes unanswerable questions: what else is out there? What if we could meet aliens from other planets? What if everything were possible? What’s more, through the power of truth-through-fiction, The Universes Inside the Lighthouse addresses issues of loneliness and compassion and gives parents and educators an opening to discuss these challenging but important issues. I love this series so much and I hope you will too! Start reading chapter one here! And feel free to spread the word!
Check out Pam’s books!
- The Universes Inside the Lighthouse—YA sci-fi adventure / first in the Balky Point Adventures
- The Wishing Rock series—women’s fiction / wit, wisdom, and recipes
- The Pam on the Map series—travelogues / wit and wanderlust