There is no better time to be alive than right now, if what you thrive on is outrage.
You barely have to look for it.
In terms of the current election cycle, you almost don’t have to do more than turn on your computer or TV to find something infuriating these days. The news cycle is non-stop, and the stories get more outrageous every day.
But it goes beyond that.
You can find outrage easily on social media, as well. Twitter is the most obvious culprit; if you’re on Twitter, you know. For others, it’s Facebook: checking the posts of that person who always writes about having a perfect life, when your own is so far from imperfect. Or maybe it’s the Instagram page of the person who you just know is a complete fraud, pretending everything’s amazing.
There’s even a term for it: hate-stalking. Following someone because their posts annoy you so much.
We say we want to be happy. But too often, we spend our time seeking out the very things that will put us in bad moods.
Why do we do these things? If outrage is so … well, enraging, then why do we do it?
In my opinion it’s because we want to feel something, and what we’re really feeling is too hard:
The sinking feeling that everyone else’s lives are so much better than ours.
The fear we will never be enough or have enough or do enough.
We hate feeling those things. We will do anything to not feel those!
Including seeking out those things that make us unhappy—just so we can feel something. So we can mask the deeper, more painful feelings, or maybe so we can get proof that no matter how bad our own lives are, someone else has failed at life, too.
But it just ends up making us feel worse.
So here’s a challenge: For today, you and me, let’s consciously avoid those things that enrage us. Let’s not click on that Facebook page or Twitter account of the person who drives us crazy. Let’s not go to the news site that we know will have a story (or ten) that will send our blood pressure to the moon.
Instead, let’s think about what makes us happy, what brings us joy, and purposely seek out those stories, images, places, experiences.
For me, one thing that works—and which I’ve been turning to a lot lately—is timelapse videos.
Side note on a couple of great sources for timelapse videos: Vimeo has dozens, if not hundreds, of spectacular videos. Simply search on “timelapse” and you’ll instantly find some great ones. The above video is on Vimeo, but I actually found it at timelapse.org, which also has a ton of great videos. Click on the “Videos and Tutorials” tab, then scroll down to “Subjects,” then pick your favorite and start watching. If you find a spectacular timelapse video somewhere, let me know in the comments!
An interesting thing happens when I watch timelapse videos. For the first minute or so I’m fidgety, not focusing, thinking about other things, like, “Is this good enough to share?” I don’t get into the videos. I’m impatient, waiting to move on.
But then, after a short while, I settle into the peace. Cares float away as I sink into the soothing music, the sublime images. I want it to never end.
We’ve become so used to instant gratification that we may now have to work to get to that point, to get past the first part, where we’re just doing it because we know we should, and give ourselves enough time to really start to feel the gratitude and the appreciation and the joy.
For you maybe it’s not timelapse videos. Maybe it’s cat videos. Maybe it’s old episodes of Whose Line Is It Anyway. Pictures of national parks. Trip reports from people who have traveled to places you want to visit one day. Inspirational podcasts (right now, I’m soaking up Marie Forleo podcasts!).
Or maybe it’s something that gets you completely away from your computer and out the door into this gorgeous world: a walk in a neighborhood park. A trip to find the nearest waterfall. A quest to discover a local labyrinth. A visit to a garden nursery.
Don’t you feel calmer already, just thinking about it?
If we’re going to seek things out, we may as well start seeking out things that are life-affirming rather than soul-destroying.
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- The Universes Inside the Lighthouse—YA sci-fi adventure / first in the Balky Point Adventures
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